Love and Marriage

Love is quite an exciting part in every person’s life.  And marriage is the next big step you take.  It is a promise to love someone forever which I did this year.  I admit that we still have a lot of things to learn from each other.  We don’t have the perfect marriage either and I don’t think there will ever be one in this world.  I remember during the marriage counseling, the pastor told us that getting married doesn’t instantly make us one.  We have to work in being one and this is a lifetime process.

According to recent studies, there is a great increase in the divorce rate.  Mostly, it is because of lack of communication.  When that happens, the couple started growing apart and eventually decides to separate.  Although, it is cliche to say that children get affected by their parents’ divorce but that is a fact.  I’m not a product of a broken family but I know several that are and still hurting even when they became adults.

I have just seen a press release from National Institute of Marriage that provides marriage counseling programs for couples.  I am no expert in marriage but I think that it is important for the couple to do the best as they can to save their marriage by getting help through counseling.  Not only because of the children but because of the love that they once shared.

Here’s the press release I’ve read:

With the national divorce rate around 50%, there is no doubt that many marriages run into communication problems at some point. There is a communication epidemic. The National Institute of Marriage has created marriage counseling programs and resources utilizing a structure that is the most powerful format they have found for helping couples who feel stuck and hopeless. They have designed several programs to help couples move past the barriers and experience the marriage of their dreams.
NIM’s Intensive Marriage Counseling Programs are unique from weekly marriage counseling in three distinctive ways:

· Intensive Marriage Counseling Format: Committing to an extended amount of concentrated time like the 2 or 4 day Marriage Intensive allows people to get to the root of the problem and stick with it in order to work through it. If you’ve been in traditional marriage counseling before, you may have experienced how you spend the first half catching up from the week before, the second half getting into the real issues, and then the time is gone. The Intensive format is designed so that people have the chance to go deeper without many of the other distractions of daily life and have enough discuss to consider solutions.

· Efficiency: One of the first steps in the process is an extensive assessment with some questionnaires. This allows the therapists to gather background information and can get an idea of the best strategy to proceed before you arrive for your session.

· Marriage Counselors: The counselors at the National Institute of Marriage are specialists in this area. One analogy we like to use is that of the Mayo Clinic: people go to their regular physician but may be sent to a specialist to work with specific areas. The NIM marriage therapists have been trained in this format to maximize its effectiveness. Also, the NIM marriage counseling programs provide the perspectives and insight of two professionals rather than one.
If you are considering divorce, you must try the National Institute of Marriage before giving up. They have developed a continuum of care that meets couples wherever they may be in their relationship. Regardless of the health of their marriage they have a service that can help couples improve their marital satisfaction. Visit their website at http://www.nationalmarriage.com. Read the incredible testimonies from the couples that saved their marriages by attending a Marriage Intensive at the National Institute of Marriage.

November 17, 2008 | Filed Under to have and to hold | Leave a Comment 

100 Days

Today marks our 100th day as husband and wife. I cherish each day that we are together. Everyday is still a bliss for me even during tough times. Since I cannot come up with 100 ways to say I love you, I put up this 100 faces that I love about him.  I’m looking forward for hundreds more! :)

100 faces

August 31, 2008 | Filed Under to have and to hold | 2 Comments 

Our 1st Month

One, uno, isa! Yay! We are married for 1 month now and everything is still a bliss. I can’t believe its a month already. I decided to count our month-saries since we never really have any official anniversary when we were just dating. Read more

June 24, 2008 | Filed Under personal, to have and to hold | 1 Comment